Sibling of a Child with Special Needs

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If you have a 'typical' child that is struggling to handle having a sibling with behavioral issues/disability/special needs, I made a worksheet to help them process their feelings and thoughts about this. If it seems to be a major concern for the child, they may need some therapy to handle their siblings issues. Its hard to notice the other children as needing therapy versus the one with the special needs, who is likely already getting alot of attention and services, but sometimes siblings feel forgotten or resentful and may need some extra support. 

Worksheet

 

Bored List

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If you're tired of hearing "I'm bored" especially around the school break days have your kids make a "Bored List"- basically a list of everything they can do around the house and when bored they can pick something from the list. Here's a sample one or make your own! 

Bored List Example

Boredom Busters- things to do and places to go in Chesco area PA

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I made a detailed list of Indoor/Rainy day activities and Outdoor/Summer time activities in the Chester County PA area with cost and locations listed. Since its in a table format I couldn't copy and paste. Download the list via the link below! 

Fun things to do

Matching Activities

Matching can teach learning and focus and are great for young kids with autism and typical preschoolers as well! 

There are many websites with printables to make these matching activities.

Boredom problems

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Boredom

Is it okay for your kids to be bored? This is a great question. Especially during the summer!

There are two pieces to it. (pros/cons):
1)  Pro: When kids are bored; they (often) become creative. 
So it can be a good thing. If there is no TV to watch, nothing planned to do, they might invent a new game, make a creative project/craft, etc. Kids should have some "down time" to make some creative choices.
If your child has a really hard time with "down time" and just wanders aimlessly about or whines- give them a few choices and allow them to be creative within those choices. This way they learn how to solve the boredom problem themselves. For example make a large poster with a list of activities they could do, or suggest a few and leave it up to them.

Here are some of my suggestions to post on the list: 
-Play with toy animals like dinosaurs, stuffed animals, little plastic farm /zoo animals, etc...
-Play with dolls/action figures/etc (girls and boys should both be encouraged to use their imagination with this type of play)
-play with blocks (large wooden blocks, legos, megablocks, etc) - build a tower, fort, castle, etc. Knock it down, build it large enough to go inside of it, invite the dolls/animals inside, etc...
-Crafts/Coloring books/Art
-Computer- not just computer games, but design or build or draw, etc or write something, play with fonts/graphics/etc
-Board games/card games/ etc
-Read a book!
-Write a book! Write a story/journal/etc
-Make a movie (with most of today's cameras and even cell phones this is pretty easy to do)
-Make a fort/house/boat/etc out of couch cushions, pillows, blankets, tables/chairs, etc.
-Dress up! Make believe/ etc
-Go outside- play pretend "house", run around, play outdoor games, ride bikes/scooters/etc

Places to go: (free or cheap)
-Take a walk
-Playground
-Mall (to walk/look around, not necessarily to shop)
-Library (get books, also alot of Free programs/activities especially in the summer)
-Local Farm
-Museums, Zoo, Aquarium, amusement parks, etc (Look for Coupons, Groupon/Living Social deals online. Also buy a family membership and go multiple times in a year for the best money savings!)
-Bowling
-Mini golf
-Movie theatre
-Local Events like outdoor fairs/festivals, etc.

2.) Con:  If they are TOO bored, they will often get into trouble/do something you DON'T want them to do. (especially kids with behavior problems) 
So like I mentioned above- give them some choices (make a list like above), also you can make a loose framework of the days like suggest different activities every few hours, or have an outing a few days /week in the summer, and some weekends. Kids don't need to be Constantly on the go- they will get exhausted and never learn how to stimulate themselves when bored, but they do need some things to do. Find the balance that works great for your child and try to help them find something constructive to do, as well as learn how to solve the boredom problem for themselves. (As a parent/teacher- don't always tell your child what he/she can do; but make a few suggestions or point to a list if you have one- and let them choose so they learn to solve their own situations, instead of expecting parents to solve it all for them, creating dependent children who aren't learning independent life skills).

Make a Bored List! (Downloadable Sample List)

Downloadable printable list of local activities (Chester County and surrounding areas). 
 

"Put In" Activities - teach children focus and fine motor skills

These are easy to make from wipes and tissue containers, just use small items like craft sticks, erasers, poker chips, etc for your preschool to put in and out of the container. You can connect the items to the box like I did or just leave them loose. 

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The craft stick one is a challenge because you have t0 put it in a smaller hole- this teaches focus and fine motor finger skills. 

Sometimes instead of just buying erasers or small items to put in boxes I print out pictures of the child's favorite thing- like Sophia the First or the Ice Age characters and I laminate and turn it into a token!